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* Optimize container images for startup

This change adjusts how to handle runner payloads to support
container builds where we keep them extracted in the filesystem.
This makes it easier to optimize the cpu/cuda vs cpu/rocm images for
size, and should result in faster startup times for container images.

* Refactor payload logic and add buildx support for faster builds

* Move payloads around

* Review comments

* Converge to buildx based helper scripts

* Use docker buildx action for release

Make sure if something goes wrong spawning the process, the user gets
enough info to be able to try to self correct, or at least file a bug
with details so we can fix it.  Once the process starts, we immediately
change back to the recommended setting to prevent the blocking dialog.
This ensures if the model fails to load (OOM, unsupported model type,
etc.) the process will exit quickly and we can scan the stdout/stderr
of the subprocess for the reason to report via API.

This should resolve a number of memory leak and stability defects by allowing
us to isolate llama.cpp in a separate process and shutdown when idle, and
gracefully restart if it has problems.  This also serves as a first step to be
able to run multiple copies to support multiple models concurrently.