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This also refines the build process for the ext_server build.

Upstream llama.cpp has added a new dependency with the
NVIDIA CUDA Driver Libraries (libcuda.so) which is part of the
driver distribution, not the general cuda libraries, and is not
available as an archive, so we can not statically link it.  This may
introduce some additional compatibility challenges which we'll
need to keep an eye on.

Make sure we're building an x86 ext_server lib when cross-compiling

This switches darwin to dynamic loading, and refactors the code now that no
static linking of the library is used on any platform

This reduces the built-in linux version to not use any vector extensions
which enables the resulting builds to run under Rosetta on MacOS in
Docker.  Then at runtime it checks for the actual CPU vector
extensions and loads the best CPU library available

In some cases we may want multiple variants for a given GPU type or CPU.
This adds logic to have an optional Variant which we can use to select
an optimal library, but also allows us to try multiple variants in case
some fail to load.

This can be useful for scenarios such as ROCm v5 vs v6 incompatibility
or potentially CPU features.

If the tree has a stale submodule, make sure we clean it up first