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Adds support for distributing pipeline stages across multiple processes (and therefore multiple machines)
* Adds a style argument to the Pipe constructor, defaulting to PipelineStyle.SingleProcess, but also supporting PipelineStyle.MultiProcess
* Added support for lazy construction of modules (see lazy_construction for an example)
* Added two implementations of inter-process communication: one based on rpc with globally visible queues, one based on send/recv
* Copied all the relevant tests from tests/pipe to tests/pipe_process and modified them to exercise PipelineStyle.MultiProcess

- rename oss_ddp to ShardedDataParallel
- some refactoring
- ShardedDataParallel owns the sharded optimizer, exposed if need be
- some small perf bumps

- added train(mode) method to be aware of eval mode

Co-authored-by: Min Xu <m1n@fb.com>