Add message for das release1.8 and update rocshmem for xdp.

Signed-off-by: lijian <lijian6@sugon.com>

build.sh

 #!/bin/bash
-# set -eux
+set -eux
 
 export amd_comgr_DIR=${ROCM_PATH}/lib64/cmake
 llvm15_path=${ROCM_PATH}/llvm/lib/clang/15.0.0
@@ -184,7 +184,8 @@ for src in "${SOURCES[@]}"; do
 done
 
 # 链接阶段
-OUTPUT="deep_ep/deep_ep_cpp.cpython-310-x86_64-linux-gnu.so"
+ext_suffix=$(python3 -c 'import sysconfig; print(sysconfig.get_config_var("EXT_SUFFIX"))')
+OUTPUT="deep_ep/deep_ep_cpp$ext_suffix"
 
 # 检查是否需要重新链接
 need_link=false

setup.py

@@ -2,6 +2,7 @@ import os, sys
 import subprocess
 import setuptools
 import subprocess
+import sysconfig
 from typing import Optional
 import subprocess
 
@@ -110,6 +111,6 @@ if __name__ == '__main__':
         version=get_deepep_version(),
         packages=setuptools.find_packages(include=['deep_ep']),
         include_package_data=True,
-        package_data={"deep_ep": ["deep_ep_cpp.cpython-310-x86_64-linux-gnu.so"]},
+        package_data={"deep_ep": [f"deep_ep_cpp{sysconfig.get_config_var('EXT_SUFFIX')}"]},
         zip_safe=False,
     )

rocshmem @ d8a4cb56

-Subproject commit 9735e605803e3c238805c103a7d3dfa8da4c4ca2
+Subproject commit d8a4cb56d62694d1ac624f36a3db4325dd7c4d89